I was fairly recently talking about a so-called “relationship problem” that has a young female.
She is 35 years old and though she states that she seriously needed to be married with children by now, it hasn’t occurred.
This relationship goal of hers is her target to get a dozen years, and each year which “happily ever after” life has eluded her she’s grown increasingly unhappier with her life.
She complains that the many individual men that she meets come out to be “losers”.
(Another unhappy relationship pattern of hers is definitely angry rage pattern of verbal attack that she explodes into when her expectations are not greeted in a relationship.)
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I tried explaining to her that the longer she waits for her life to enhance her mental state, her style of unhappiness grows more and more deeply engrained. Which means that she is going to feel more and more trapped in unhappiness under all conditions.
She insisted that her unhappiness is an outcome of her not being in a loving relationship and she continued to blame her anger and melancholy on the males who may have let her down.
This specific perspective of hers represents what we are able to call UNCONDITIONAL unhappiness.
I told her, “While you think that the despondency of yours will immediately raise whether you could simply enjoy a lucky marriage, you’d know very quickly that your anguish and anger returns still in case you did see male of your goals. Why? Because your negative emotional pattern is habitual.”
So long as we create our unhappiness somebody else’s responsibility, and blame it on our life conditions, we develop an unhappy attitude that looks progressively inescapable.
One more factor at play here involves the so called “losers” she is bringing in.
Provided we stay in a bad emotional state, we seriously can’t attract or find good, emotionally healthy people to connect with.
We repel sentimentally healthy folks on a conscious or maybe subconscious level, because our attitude problem “radiates” and others “pick up on” the negative mental imbalance we live in.
Do YOU endure UNCONDITIONAL unhappiness?
The way out begins as you take responsibility for the emotional reactions of yours and attitudes toward life and toward individuals, rather than regarding your circumstances or someone else as responsible for how you think.
The next step is examining your perceptions and mental states until you realize how the negativity of yours, not your circumstances, is really all that is short in the way between you and happiness.
The third step is to persistently and patiently work on being much more aware of the thoughts of yours and your attitudes, which means you are able to practice being somewhat LESS angry and also unhappy and free yourself from the practice of unhappiness, little by minor, each day.
As a consequence, you will find the life of yours being more beautiful simply the way that it is, you will attract “better” people into your life, and also you will be a little more emotionally stable and resilient in case you do find a genuine “winner” of a mate for a healthier, happier marriage.